Real Men Don’t Cry?

When I was growing up, I was told that men don’t cry, they don’t show emotion, they needed to be strong. It was a sign of weakness to show love to your wife in public, or wear your wedding ring. Many men that I have known in my life are afraid of hugging each other, and I have seen some fathers belittle their son’s because they cried… “suck it up” “be a man” “crying is for girls”, and I’m sure you could think of a few others…
Reading thru “The Resolution for Men” I am reading the Chapter “Resolve to Demonstrate Love” ~ Reading thru, I reflected on my childhood and realized that shutting off my emotions doesn’t make me a man. It makes me a time bomb ready to go off. To not show tears, makes me look like a tyrant to my family. To not hug my son or kiss his neck, makes me look like a dad that really doesn’t care..
There are men out there that are afraid of what people think if they hug another guy. Or give their son a hug. Or hold their wife’s hand in public.
When, in fact, Jesus modeled just the opposite. From the book, “the strongest Man of all time was also the most loving Man ever to walk the earth. Jesus Christ, the greatest Warrior for justice, went out of His way to show kindness, compassion and respect to people from all walks of life.”
Jesus also wept, was sad, laughed, was angry, but showed love in more ways than we can ever imagine. In fact, His two Greatest commandments were to, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it, You shall love your neighbor as yourself. On these two commandments depend all the law and the prophets” and “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” So, where does all this mumbo jumbo come from that a man is weak to show love, or compassion, or to weep?
I don’t know, but I do know this, that Jesus Christ, a Man amongst men, who did something that most of us couldn’t do, and that is to strip Himself of all of royalty, come down in man form, be beat, spat on, kicked, whipped, and nailed to a cross and all the while asking the Father to forgive them “for they don’t realize what they are doing!” Wow! Now that is a man. A man that wasn’t afraid to cry, that played with kids that others thought were a nuisance, that was sad that His friend had died, and wept with others on many occasions.
I think I shall continue to emulate the sensitivity of Christ, to love others, to hold my wife’s hand in public, to hug my kid’s, to hug my brothers AND my sisters without fear or regret… To also cry when I loose a loved one, and cry for my friends that are facing hardships. To listen to those that others find annoying because they, too have needs that need to be heard.
Thank you Father for the heart you gave me, and all the Love that I have, so much that I have much to give others also!
So guys…. this man Jesus? Are you like Him or are you trying to emulate what the world thinks a man should be? ;=)

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